In this beginning of the year, when so many people looked back at the previous year and made resolutions about the subsequent one (sometimes to depressing consequences), it is nice to consider if all those thoughts about past and future are really healthy.
More than ever we know that the future is something we cannot control. The past is also something beyond us and when things get unstable it is natural to feel anxious about what may happen tomorrow, but sadly it is not always possible that life is the way we want it to be. Sure, it is natural that people make plans and have objectives in life and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it The problem is how we feel if anything unexpected happens, if the frustration will be too big.
I understand we cannot live irresponsibly and it is necessary to organize our thoughts, but in a world based on instability, where old truths proved not to be so real and not even news can be instantly trusted, sometimes it is better to try to relax and let it go. Use the good resources we have at our disposal within our reality and stick to it because we have tools to be aware that mental health has to be our priority and we cannot be mentally relaxed in the middle of anxiety.
When people celebrate the new year, they often just want to enjoy the moment, celebrate a new stage of life and partying a bit. This is all very positive, but sometimes we have to be neutral about the future and welcome it, but neither in a negative way (to avoid sadness) or in a too excited way (to avoid frustration). With hope and love in our hearts, hoping for the best and expecting nothing, simply accepting the good things and being resilient to the bad ones.
I have no idea if I make myself clear in this text. I mean that we should live one day after another for the sake of our mental sanity. Celebrating is good, but with both feet on the floor. It is just a day after another and in all days our option is doing our best, with hope and positive thoughts and high expectations, no matter how noble they are, do not always make much difference. When it comes to meditation and wellness, much is said about the importance of fulling living the present time because being too much in the past or future is a sort of prison. I could not agree more.
If the more reflection-oriented time of the New Year Eve made you feel uncomfortable, do not worry. We write a new page of our lives every day, it does not matter if it is a new year or not. We always have a chance and sometimes things go better than even our craziest dreams. This is the advantage of the fact that life is a surprise and surprises can be positive too. Relax, take your time, breath and live your life. Sometimes the best way of fighting for something is doing nothing and this is an active decision by itself.
Silent Beauties 
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